Friday, August 31, 2007
Day 4 - Venturing Out
Day 4 - Mornings
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Day 3 - Part Deux (It's Official)
Today is Security Bureau day. On the way, Der tells us, we are now legally the parents of our adopted children. He shows us our official adoption certificates and says we're going to the Security Bureau to get "interviewed".
We're running a bit early, so Der asks if we want to stop by a grocery store? Sure, why not. We pull up to this giant shopping plaza where there's a huge, I mean huge for being an inner city grocery store, on the ground level of this giant building. This store sells everything, mounds of fresh fruits, chinese sausages, and more regular items. The crowds turn most of us off - not used to the density of people seemingly everywhere, trying to navigate a store where you can't read any of the signs, though find familiar brands, etc, because the graphics and colors are the same, but most products, including Coke are not marked bi-lingual - oh, and doing this with our babies in tow. I get a couple things, a couple mini moon cakes, and an ice cream cone for Eddie and scram back to the bus.
Its a little ominous, as we pull up in front of this official government building with armed guards everywhere. He says, don't look at them, no pictures. He obviously has arranged for appointments for our group. We go up to the 2nd floor into a room that kind of looks like a DMV waiting area in the US. We wait our turn. One by one, families are called up to meet with a very official, straight faced (did we mention the Chinese have no sense of humor?) government worker, who confirms we are who we are, takes a picture of the baby, and dismisses us with one glance. A little creepy, but who cares, we're almost done with Chinese government type meetings. Tomorrow is a day off for us. Depending on how much sleep we get tonight, we may venture out, take a taxi to check out the surrounding area - on our own.
So, on the way back from the Security Bureau, Der asks, "So how old the documents say your baby is?" I replied, "14 months", but quickly picked up his cue, and asked, "Why? How old do you think she is? He reached over, felt the top of her head and said, "No, not 14 months. At most, 10 months" and motioned toward her fontinel, which I felt, and noticed it was still open about between the size of a quarter and a 50 cent piece. Hmmm. Interesting. Explains her size. She's fitting quite well in her 9 mos clothes I brought.
Day 3 - Turning Point
I think today is a turning point for all of us. Isabella is happily playing with Eddie's Spiderman watch. I had forgotten how cool it was, children at this age, playing, amusing themselves with the simplest of things. She is such an inquisitive little girl, taking everything in, her eyes noticing everything, watching intently, each of us, what we do, what we say, she seems more interested and curious about her new surroundings than intimidated, as I feared she would. She is indeed a happy little girl. Last night, Eddie had her cackling with laughter as he was dancing about, acting like a clown which we've all witnessed, tickling her, making funny sounds. He is such a natural at this, being a big brother - and boy did it warm my heart to hear my children laughing. My children. Wow.She is doing well. She sleeps well at nights, 8-10 hour stretches. Wakes occasionally, soothes herself - she sucks her thumb(s), and goes back to sleep. She takes 3 nine ounce bottles and eats congee, and soft solids at the table with us. We gave her some fruit at breakfast this morning - cool to watch her expression experiencing the new foods. We're sure she ate no solids and had no experience with spoon feeding prior to now. But she's a fast learner and tonight was opening wide for the noodles Bill was feeding her with his chopsticks. Already in just a little over 2 days, she is looking better, with better color, smiles, laughs, and plays quietly at the table at meals. Can I say how helpful it is to have Eddie here with us. He tries so hard and is so good with her. Tonight at Dinner, Bill and I actually got to eat at the same time, while Eddie was feeding her congee. Yesterday at the pool and again last night, Bill had her on her feet, cruising, holding onto the bed or Bill, taking steps, shaky, but taking steps. She is able to roll over, sit herself up, and is doing more of that today, but wasn't moving much on her own the first day.
I rarely openly disclosed, mostly out of embarassment or shame for what I thought most would think was less than appropriate feelings, but so often through this long, arduous process - I questioned whether or not this was the right thing to do. Not knowing what to make of the abivalence I just could not suppress. Was that ambivalence an internal cue of what would be the biggest mistake of my life, or just fear of the unknown? Would not "going through with this" end up being that mistake? Surely, the length of time we all have had to wait, think, re-think, wait some more, and my usual way of over-thinking just about every situation in my life, has contributed. Though, as I watch my husband, my son, emerge over the past 2 days, bonding, working, trying so hard to care for this new little creature in our lives, I start to remember why we did this to begin with. Then today, only the 2nd day after what I assume has to be a most traumatic experience for her, I get a clear, distinct message from Isabella that she is happy to be with us - I know for sure now, that this was the right decision, that this was our path, and she was always ours. She completes us. (ok, it wasn't entirely the message from Isabella, but the 2 hour discussion, Bill and I had over 2 boxes of tissues in the middle of night while Eddie and Bella were sleeping.)
At breakfast in the hotel, we get a table by the window this morning. This fisherman? on this boat has come down the Pearl River every morning with this giant net. What is he fishing for? Bill says the fresh catch on tonight's menu. Ewwww. Let's just say the river isn't exactly crystal clear..
Tuesday, August 28, 2007
Day 2
Back at the CCAA. Today we met with the Director of the CCAA to go over and sign the adoption papers.
Afterwards, we had some lunch. Isabella slept all last night, quiet as a mouse. She wakes for brief periods (no crying), but soothes herself and puts herself back to sleep. She did some eating at dinner last night. It was her first experience at spoon feeding, but was a champ. A chip off the ol block I say. She'll do just fine in this family. Eddie is amusing his lil sister, waiting for his Wonton Soup with Noodle. Bill is having a Cheeseburger. Where in America can you have both at the same restaurant?
Eddie is enamored with her. Already we're amazed at how good he is with her.
You can't tell from this pic, but she actually has a lot of hair. Its thin and kept short, kinda spiky on top, like Billy Idol. Me, on the other hand didn't even bother putting make up on today. We're still having quite a bit of trouble with the jet lag and adjusting, which is why its 4:44 am, I'm up, updating this blog and have been for hours.
She's been very good. Doesn't do a lot of crying, and is easily soothed. She's taken about 3-4 eight ounce bottles from us today, and eaten congee and we experimented a little with some rice noodle. Don't want to make the mistake of giving her too much too fast and upset her stomach like with so many newly adopted kids. We're taking it nice and slow. Tomorrow we'll try some additional foods like fruit, etc. Its nice having a breakfast buffet fit for a king every morning because its all right there. The buffet would be compared to that in a hotel in America that'd cost $35 a person! There's 12 different fresh fruits, including fresh longan and starfruit, along with melons, berries, etc. There's a table with smoked salmon, whitefish, bagels, fresh pastries, breads, muffins - another with scrambled eggs, sausage, bacon, potatoes, grits, french toast - made to order omelettes with fresh eggs and a dozen toppings, fresh seafood, shrimp, crab claws and legs, oysters, lamb, beef, and of course chinese favorites like dim sum, congee, spring rolls and at least 50 more items. They do a great job here. Its definitely a 5 star hotel, with pools, a driving range on the roof overlooking the pearl river, fitness centers, shops, a dozen restaurants, laundry, baby equipment rentals just steps away. There is a giant 3 story atrium with a waterfall inside, a pond filled with foot long coi and goldfish. This is the first time a hotel has exceeded my expectations and was even better than the pictures and description on their webpage.
This is Eddie amusing the fish. He loves the idea that when he flaps around, waving his arms and legs, they come to him, heads out of the water, mouths wide open. Bill and I explained they think you're going to feed them. He thinks they're enjoying his show.
She has 6 teeth that are in or mostly in with looks like at least 10 more coming in soon. She sucks her thumb to soothe her achy gums or when she's upset. She's very good at self soothing. It'll be hard not to spoil that by wanting to hold her all the time.The End of Day 1
Already comfy, safe in her father's arms, on the bus on the way back to the White Swan - Day One is coming to a close. We are all physically and emotionally drained and exhausted. We have our little girl. Tomorrow we will come back to the CCAA to sign some paperwork to start the process for legally adopting her in China. Now, we go back to the hotel, where we already have dinner plans with William, his sister, her husband and daughter. He called me in the 15 minutes after getting into our room and before we had to go back downstairs to go to the CCAA yelling, "Cousin, so you arrive in China and don't even call your cousin to tell him you're here!" Ve-ly funny. When I said, I literally just walked into the room. He said, I know. I wondered if there were cameras. You know, we're in Communist territory. I told him we had to be back downstairs in a few minutes. He said, ok. We'll go out to dinner tonight then - to celebrate. I'll be there at 5 or 5:30. Just then, Der came to our room to make sure we were ok with our arrangements and was a bit perplexed that I could already be on the phone chatting away in Chinese to someone. I told him it was my cousin, who wanted to come take us to Dinner. He said you better make it 6 or 6:30. Already causing a ruckus, we are.
Isabella's first night with us. A new beginning for her and a long way away from the LeChang SWI. I was saying to Bill, things are already looking up for this little girl.
Tears of Joy
Gosh, she's so little. Probably very scared, never having been in a car that long, never seeing so many new, strange faces. Just hold her so she knows it'll be alright from this moment on...
Bill is being so good, taking pictures of this most precious moment for all of us. Eddie is looking on pensively thinking.... hmm, i wonder if my Nintendo will be charged up again we get back to the hotel. Actually, he's probably thinking, so that's what she's like.
Well Eddie, you asked for a sister. Here she is. Love her. Be good to her, from this day forward.
Our long journey's end. The beginning of our new family.
By some stroke of luck, while the nannies have a different native language, they also speak Cantonese! They, along with most everyone else we've run into are shocked I speak Chinese. We are chatting about Isabella's life til now, her habits, routines, diet, etc. They tell me she is a happy little girl. She is healthy and very smart. Her eyes are dark, very dark - they emphasize several times. (I was embarrased to not know, so did not ask the significance of that til later when I ask William and his sister at Dinner that night why it was important.) The Chinese believe the darker the iris, the healthier and stronger the child is. They kept remarking how we got a good healthy baby. Indeed, her iris is so dark, you can hardly see her pupil in lower lighting. The other parents did not get the luxury of getting all the background info I got.Monday, August 27, 2007
Live from Guangzhou - Meet Isabella Chung Templeton
This is from the bus on the way to Guangzhou. I hardly recognize this city from when I was here last in 1990. Steady growth, buildings, skyscrapers everywhere. We crossed the 2nd longest twin span suspension bridge in Asia. The longest one is in Denmark - according to our guide Ben.
This is at the CCAA (China Center for Adoption Affairs). After a 3 hour long bus ride (Eddie napped, Bill and I didn't, can you tell?) from Hong Kong, checking into the White Swan, dropping off our luggage, etc, they whisk us away by van to the CCAA to meet Isabella who is waiting for us. At the same time, we were travelling by bus from HK, she was travelling from her orphanage in LeChang, which is about 3 hours by car to Guangzhou.
We're waiting in the lobby area along with 6 other families in our group - can you say anxious? Oh well, let's get those people to take a picture of us, since we're all standing here with our cameras out. Eddie is all ready to meet his new sister, with toys in hand.
We all have family numbers. Ours is #4. That's Der (in the red shirt), one of our 2 guides in China. I guess, he'd be the midwife? When he called #4 first, I felt like I was on the Price is Right, and he just said "And the next contestant... Come on down!" (I think I even heard the music playing in my head) What a weird sense of humor I have.... The woman holding Isabella is her nanny and the woman behind her is the Director from the LeChang SWI (Social Welfare Institute - Chinese for orphanage). I don't know who the woman in the white shirt is admiring my new daughter.Arriving in Hong Kong
Arriving at the airport in HK. Feeling pretty good after a 15 hour flight from Newark. Of course, you notice Bill is doing all the luggage handling - its all I can do to move myself and take this picture. The direct flight on Continental to HK - we highly recommend it. We were on a Boeing 777-200 - the one with 9 seats per row, 12 bathrooms on board. Service was great and the gizmo at each seat that had over 300 movies, games, tv, radio and music videos for free - that was cool and occupied the 3 of us for the majority of the flight. That and feeding us every 2-3 hours - Elaine, you would've loved it!
This is Ben, our HK guide. He met us at the airport, gave us instructions, a short tour of the airport and area and tucked us in a very nice hotel. We would be going to Guangzhou the next day to meet our babies, so he said to rest up and avoid temptation to go shopping. That, plus the new airport is on Lantau Island and about an hour from the downtown shopping district in HK. Its nice though, a lot nicer than the airport in Kowloon we landed at last time. This airport opened 6 yrs ago.
Check out the Krispy Kreme! I can't get a hot donut in Wilmington DE, but can at the airport in HK. How about that? Not that I need donuts, hot or not.